How Does An Intelligent, International Model X Successful Female Entrepreneur Approach Dating? We chat to Nathalie Dahn to find out.
Nathalie Dahn, based in New York, is a successful, top model, successful at academics, successful at entrepreneurship, a polyglot and continually studying and landing new deals. It’s amazing she finds time to date.
“Modelling has been a blessing. I get to travel and am exposed to inspiring cultures and new interests,” says Nathalie. “Europe is a favourite as I love that each country has such an intense representation of their culture.” Meeting people sometimes includes going on a date.
Not surprisingly, Nathalie is very measured in her approach to dating. Here are her personal insights for all you gorgeous, eligible ladies of the world.
For starters, she shares a quote: “Where you are a year from now is a reflection of the decisions you make today”. So using the guidance, let’s see the tips for great decisions.
Tip #1: Don’t rush things. Good things do, absolutely, take time. Your lifetime relationship is worth it to go old school. Putting in some solid groundwork to ensure the next 50 years are successful surely sounds like a good proposition for personal or business relationships?
Growing up in Europe where the social culture amongst girls and guys is non-gender focussed means boys and girls hang out and have fun without any sexual undertones. This is good training for later years. Be best friends, be goofy, make silly mistakes and make sure you are not judged.
Tip #2: Build trust. That’s why you shouldn’t rush. It is very important that you know the person and have had an opportunity to view their respect of trust with you AND their friends. Their loyalty towards others is an indication of their future loyalty towards you. This is the foundation for any long-lasting relationship.
Tip #3: Build your awareness. Read. More specifically, read the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman <suggestion insert 5lovelanguages.com hyperlink>. The book unpacks five ways that people experience appreciation and love; through service, gift-giving, physical touch, quality time, or words of affirmation. She highly recommends it for taking the confusion out of some relationship misunderstandings. This book is relevant to your partner relationship and your friends.
Tip #4: Know that you are the prize. You are the boss of your own life and you are the sole controller of who you allow into your heart. They had better be worth it as your heart is a highly precious ‘commodity’. Know YOUR worth.
Treat your relationship status as a job interview, i.e. I have a position in my life to fill. Do you meet these criteria? It is flattering when someone is interested in you, but until he/she has met all the criteria, they are just candidates. Stick to your values, tick the boxes, and if there are signs of a non-fit, don’t ever think “it might be better”.
Tip #5: Don’t invest your emotional equity immediately. This is supported by all the previous tips. Don’t wait until you are feeling a negative drain before you move on. Use your beautiful, positive energy on something else. You cannot force a person to be who they were not born to be, that is unfair on them and on you. Let go.
Tip #6: Confidence. Your candidate must have confidence. Be sure you know the difference between confidence and arrogance. With confidence, your candidate will make more sound decisions in his/her life because they won’t be swayed by others’ values.
Tip #7: Taking the next step. The above steps don’t mean you can’t have fun. Absolutely have fun, flirt, and enjoy each other. Time will let you know when you are ready to go to the next step.
Tip #8: Start fresh. Don’t let your past hurt impact on the current. This is only closing you off to opportunities. You are in control, have confidence in that, and follow these steps. If all the boxes have been ticked, if you have both taken a good amount of time to get to know each other, then love like you have never been hurt before.
What If The Boxes Are Being Ticked Or Not?
If the boxes are being ticked, then it’s time to consider an exclusive relationship status. If you are playing the field, you don’t have the opportunity to see the deeper side of each person.
Even at this stage, advises Nathalie, never over invest your emotions until you have spent enough time getting to know the person.
If it’s a no-go? “If something doesn’t work out,” says Nathalie. “I am sad for a few days and I lean heavily on my girlfriends who are strong and independent. Together we pick me up and I refocus my energy on a positive project.”
“Be the phoenix that rises from the ashes,” beams Nathalie. “The best part about being down is the amazing feeling that you experience as you rise above it. It is important for inspiration and for your depth of character to have knocks and positives in life.”
How To Meet People
Nathalie says her first port of call has always been via friends. Then she would consider common interest places like Jazz Clubs, art galleries or Church.
On online dating: “I don’t do it as I am flooded with Insta DMs as I am a public face. For those who don’t have a public face then maybe consider it but be VERY, very careful. I definitely recommend going via friends first then common interest places.”
The First Meeting
“If you’re on a date and things are going badly, offer them friendship if they are interesting. Otherwise just be honest and say this is not working out for you. Don’t waste your time or theirs,” says Nathalie.
Nathalie is an old-fashioned girl at heart and prefers the man to make the first move after she has shown him a glance and a smile. She believes this is a good indicator of his confidence. “I can also tell a lot from how he approaches me and introduces himself,” smiles Nathalie.
Know what you are looking for: Be very clear with YOURSELF about what you want. Nathalie wants: funny, kind, spontaneous, intelligent, independent, polite, and an animal lover.
Be confident and stick to your values. Bragging and price listing is a massive turnoff, so avoid that in your conversations. How does it add value to your date’s enjoyment? It is a big sign of insecurity.
Dating + COVID is tricky. Nathalie says, “This is a great time to have pen-pals. It’s a lost communication form. Also, check old digital messages. Maybe there is someone that you forgot/overlooked and you want to pick something up with them.”
Be yourself, be clear and meet your needs, keep striving for your goals, be your fun-loving self and know you deserve the best!
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